Re: Your Brains- Men & Women in Social Media Notoriety

I am not sure how I missed this interesting piece by Shelly Kramer, but I did. And if it hadn’t been for @lizasperling giving me a far too gratuitous shout out, I might have missed it entirely. Shame on me! I was just crawling into bed for some much needed shut eye when I, as always,  checked my twitter. This article, tweeted directly at me, set my mind so firmly into motion that I was forced to pull out from under my haven of warmth and put my currently turbie twist covered head to work.

I agree with nearly everything Shelly Kramer shared, but I think there was a little something missing. I suppose that something is the perspective of how men and women cognitively approach things different. As much as I would like to say men and women are equals in everything, it’s not quite the case. Fundamentally our brains are wired differently, thus making certain things more appealing/ intuitive based on our gender. I am not by any means saying that a women is not capable of doing everything a man can. Simply, that we might have to fight little against our cognitive tendencies to do some of those things.

What is the  Difference between the Male & Female Brain

A neurological study on brain mass found that in the male brain the cerebral cortex it is slightly more likely (60%) to be non-symmetrical. What might be the male advantage of a lopsided brain? Well a thick cortex can suggested increased functionality of the brains processing. Things that are function based, like staking claim to things & defending territory, may benefit from the increased thickness.  Women on the other hand have a more symmetrical cerebral cortex which suggests an uneven thickness in neither the right or left side of the brain. Since the a female brain is naturally more symmetrical, the thought processes which require multi-directional processing are more easily developed.

Another study in cited Psychology Today found that the male brain is characterized by systemizing tendencies and mechanistic thinking. “Systemizing” is  just a fancy way of saying they have natural tendencies to analyze, explore, and construct a system. They intuitively figures out how things work both literally and figuratively.  In contrast, the female brain is characterized by empathizing tendencies or mentalistic thinking. Empathy is the “the drive to identify another person’s emotions and thoughts”, and to respond to them appropriately. Mentalism, the other strong component to female thinking,  is the ability  to  understand people and what drives them.

So from this understanding of the brain, what can we deduce? Let’s make it simple: Women naturally do well with multitasking, cross-topic organization, community development, and communication. Men naturally do well with promotion (territory claim),  self preservation, concept exploration & system development .

How Does this Alter  the Way We Look At Women in Social Media?

Research has shown us what I think we already knew subconsciously was true, women naturally are more focused on conversation, men are naturally more focused on self survival (promotion). This doesn’t mean that all women are capable of is girl talk or task management. Nor does this mean men are only capable of tooting their own horn and exploring undeveloped concepts digitally.   I am simply saying that advance science shows that each gender has a natural tendencies to certain skill sets. Naturally men will promote themselves more, whether they intend to or not. Likewise, women are more likely to engage in a community, whether ore not they set out to do so. All this put into perspective, it make sense why the “biggest” names in social media are predominately men. It’s not they are any better or more talented than the lovely ladies of digital community, solely that they got prepackaged with a little more natural intuition on how to put themselves top of mind in the field.

In order for any of this to change and for more women to get credit for the more than excellent work they do, us ladies need to focus a little more on self-promotion & industry presence. I know it’s counter-intuitive, it’s uncomfortable, and frankly it seems a bit “used-car salesman like”. Hell, we’ve got thousands of years of  evolutionary developed cognitive processing fighting hard against us.  If we can go a little against our intuition and do a little more to promote our work , women-in life & in social media- will be better. Here’s just a few ideas of simple things we can do to promote women in social media.

1. Endorse Female Conference Speakers- Until the landscape at conferences becomes a little bit more balanced, it’s going to be harder for women to get the social media street cred they deserve. There is no reason more women shouldn’t be speaking at conferences & Shelly Kramer’s post had a list of women who are more then capable of delivering an excellent workshop or speech. Frankly, I’d enjoy some more balance in things; It would not only add some spice to the current conference rosters, but also produce new insights &  program management ideas. Plus, it’s getting old not seeing women on panels or giving speeches. While the world  ~50% female, conference speaker lists make it seems as if we are going extinct!

2. Boast just a little- If you’ve got accomplishments, share them. Chris Brogan doesn’t hesitate to mention he’s a NYT best selling author, neither should you. And if you know anything about Chris, he never comes off as a self promoting jerkwad. He’s balanced in his approach. He balances promoting his events & speaking engagements partnered with vocalizing his legitimacy , all while maintaining a more than active conversation with the public.  I think one of the women who may be doing this best in social media is Liz Strauss. Mingled in with her day to day conversation she still takes time to mention her events and do a little healthy self promotion that never comes off as excessive or in your face.

3. Schmooze, Chatter, & Network- If we’re naturally better suit to create dialogue based communities we should use our strength to help overcome our brain-based weakness. The sum is greater then the sum of all the parts, right? If we can create positive social media orgs for women, then as women break through the barrier, they can mentor and train the next generation to over come the same challenges. There’s a lot of insight and drive here, we just need a little more organization.

This networking function goes beyond  just connecting with other women in the industry. Network with the men who are currently leading the charge! I am sure you’d be surprised how many of them also think that women are unrepresented  in the scene ( especially at the events). If they know who the talented women are, that their intentions are honest, and that their work is superior, then  it is likely they were use a little of their social capital to help these women out.

In Short: Women are doing excellent work. I am confident we can & will lead advanced social thinking & dialogue, but to do so we need to start fighting our intuition and step into the portion of the spotlight we deserve.